Finding a way into Exertion — For years, I’ve struggled with “exercise.” I’m big on play and moving and games and chasing, but exercise for the sake of exercise (stationery bikes, treadmills, running, workout routines) has felt absolutely miserable in my body. …

Making sense of our attachment styles — There is so much complicated information out there about attachment styles. Secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and then all of the subdivisions and smaller boxes. Categories and quizzes to help us nail down exactly what we are. But in reality, that level of detail is only useful for a researcher splitting…

On patriarchy and birth — I wrote this letter five years ago as I was recovering from a traumatic birth experience. I was also just deepening into my understanding of patriarchy, feminism, white supremacy in the context of the world we live in. I had just read Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit…

Deepening our ability to take in love, safety and belonging — I’ve seen this Psychology Today article making the rounds and I have so much to say. It’s a powerful read. High level takeaway: Depression is not an illness. It’s adaptive, the workings of a healthy nervous system. It is SO refreshing to finally read this perspective from a mainstream source. …

Working toward Good Trouble — I joined the strike today. It wasn’t graceful. Instead of planning. I did what I always do when I have to make a decision that might lead people to be annoyed at me: I procrastinated. I didn’t say anything leading up to today. I didn’t give anyone a heads up…

I read a story to my son tonight. A book about trains. An entire book about trains winding through mountains and over streams, roaring through prairies and charging through towns. A charming little book with pastel colors and sweet writing about people traveling home. And it made me feel sick. …